Nice find

One of my daughters brought my attention back to a site with lots of quizzes she like to visit. I know myself inside out, but love to do such quizzes, although I mostly think of them as just fun things. Those quizzes here actually, are very precise in their outcome. Took some leisure time to do them all. One of the results:

You’re an intuitive healer!


Healers are eternal optimists. You always look for something good in even the worst situations when it seems that everything’s already gone wrong. While you may be perceived as calm or even shy, you have an inner flame that can kindle every heart. You have the extraordinary ability to understand problems and find the root cause of them. You have incredible potential to do good.

Another quiz came with the outcome of my spiritual animal being the Eagle. I have eagle feathers which found their way to me and I have an Eagle in energy constantly being at my side. The next stunning outcome was that the badger is the animal similar to me. The animal totem Badger says:

Aggressiveness, Reliance, Self-Expression
The power of the Badger totem is its aggressiveness and the willingness to fight for what it wants. This aggression can also be turned to healingfor Badger is the keeper of Earth’s healing herbs. Badger people are often leaders and bosses, the one who will get the job done. If you have a Badger as a totem, you will likely be solitary but comfortable being alone. You are comfortable in your own skin and very self-reliant. Badger is a powerful totem when used properly.

As my followers may know already from previous posts, I brought with me from former life’s a lot of old knowledge about herbs and their healing powers. This old knowledge is still dormant but will open again in due time.

Maybe it appeals to you to do some test too to find some answers about yourself.


Gold, in a non material way, is associated with the divine sphere, Christ energy, unconditional love, healing, protection, purification and unconditional wealth (wisdom, knowledge, love, assets).

Gold is all colors in unity.

Gold is letting go of the old and outworn. Gold is eternal unification.

Gold represents perfection in all matter, on any level.

Gold is the medicine for rheumatism which psychological roots are martyrdom, unfulfilled wishes, not accepting yourself in deep love, sometimes hate and not being able to let go en forgive old wounds and circumstances.

Now the Italian artist Maurizio Cattelan made this incredible work of art:

Absolutely stunning symbolism in this time of great change. And, by the way, many people came to see the toilet made of pure gold at the New York Guggenheim-Museum.


it’s magic


Sailing the Internet I found the picture above. Curious as I am I had a closer look.
I am a wood person, born High Noon – so find my magic.

I’m an internal magic user and if you see my LinkedIn Profile and this blog you see the similarity’s.

Nice finding on a Sunday morning.


This morning finally the idea how to make the connection – see the picture. From this:

new tool in place

to this:connection2


Sunday’s art




A year ago I did the test with the following outcome:
Je Element
vuur – Willen

Je bent als Vuur; lichtgevend, warm, inspirerend, soms agressief en kernachtig.



Gericht op: Beeld en Actie
Werkwoord: Verbeelden – je bent in staat om inspiratie om te zetten in actie
Instelling: Intuïtief– je durft op je impulsen te vertrouwen
Kern: Zelfbewust – je kent jezelf en je weet hoe je om wilt gaan met je omgeving
Volgens ons benader je de wereld en jezelf op dit moment het sterkst vanuit Willen. Jij houdt van actie en zoekt dynamisch naar opwinding. Impressies worden instinctief omgezet in expressie.
Beelden en passie zijn jouw krachtigste instrument. Jij luistert naar jouw intuïtie. “Weten wat jij wil is jouw drive of motivatie. Jij benadert jouw doel rechtstreeks en jij wilt het NU realiseren. Jij bent trots, hebt behoefte om in het middelpunt te staan en wilt bewonderd worden. Jij hebt een zonnig karakter. Jij bezit een sterke overtuiging en overtuigingskracht. Jij wilt en kan anderen enthousiasmeren en motiveren. Jij bent impulsief, eigengereid, idealistisch en principieel. Jij wordt geraakt door wereldleed en tegelijkertijd ben jij goed in staat om voor jezelf te zorgen. Willen doe je vanuit je hart. Willen vergroot jouw gevoel van eigenwaarde.
Jouw belangrijkste kwaliteit en je passie liggen volgens ons op het vlak van Motiveren / Ondersteunen. In een opleiding heb je een duidelijk doel voor ogen omdat jij goed weet wat je wilt en je zoekt praktische handvatten. Jij wilt mensen enthousiasmeren en nuchter houvast geven. Jij wilt vooraf graag weten of je met de opleiding je doel kunt realiseren en of het geleerde echt toepasbaar is en werkt.

Today the outcome is different and I assume due to my inner changes and the changing of energy’s which will open new chapters of learning and knowledge:

Je Element
Water – Voelen

Je bent als Water; meegaand, levendig, vitaliserend, soms overspoelend en liefdevol.

Gericht op: Contact en Relatie
Werkwoord: Verbinden – Je voelt je verbonden met mensen en hun situatie
Instelling: Inlevend – Je voelt empathie en kunt meevoelen met anderen
Kern: Sfeerbewust – Je bent gevoelig voor wat er in je omgeving gebeurt

Volgens ons benader je de wereld en jezelf op dit moment het sterkst vanuit Voelen. Jij ervaart en benadert de wereld sterk vanuit jouw eigen gevoelsbeleving. Jij wilt mensen verbinden en je met mensen verbonden voelen. Zorg geven en zorg ontvangen zijn jouw krachtigste instrument. Jij probeert (geestelijke) pijn zoveel mogelijk te vermijden. Jij bent omgevingsgevoelig en trekt je terug als de sfeer je tegenstaat. Jij hebt een innige relatie met de liefde. Jouw dagelijks leven wordt bepaald door gewoontepatronen. Jij hecht veel betekenis aan het verleden. Jij bent toegewijd, dienstbaar en empathisch. Jij bent uiterlijk beheerst en tegelijkertijd beïnvloedbaar. Voelen speelt zich af in je buik. Voelen vergroot jouw gevoel van eigenwaarde.
Jouw belangrijkste kwaliteit en je passie liggen volgens ons op het vlak van Begeleiden en Motiveren. In een opleiding heb je een duidelijke voorkeur voor zorg en empathie en je hebt een duidelijk doel voor ogen omdat jij goed weet wat je wilt. Jij wilt mensen een gevoel van verbinding laten ervaren en enthousiasmeren. Jij wilt vooraf graag weten of de opleiding je ondersteunt in wat je voelt en of je met de opleiding je doel kunt realiseren.



When emotional intelligence first appeared to the masses, it threw a massive wrench into what many people had always assumed was the sole source of success—IQ.

How much of an impact does emotional intelligence (EQ) have on your personal and professional success? The short answer is: a lot! It’s a powerful way to focus your energy in one direction with a tremendous result.

Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results. Emotional intelligence is made up of four core skills that pair up under two primary competencies: personal competence and social competence.



Personal competence comprises your self-awareness and self-management skills, which focus more on you individually than on your interactions with other people. Personal competence is your ability to stay aware of your emotions and manage your behavior and tendencies.

  • Self-Awareness is your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen.
  • Self-Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behavior.

Social competence is made up of your social awareness and relationship management skills; social competence is your ability to understand other people’s moods, behavior, and motives in order to respond effectively and improve the quality of your relationships.

  • Social Awareness is your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on.
  • Relationship Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions and the others’ emotions to manage interactions successfully.

Despite the significance of emotional intelligence, its intangible nature makes it very difficult to know which behaviors you should emulate. So I’ve analyzed the data from the million-plus people TalentSmart has tested in order to identify the habits that set high-EQ people apart.

  1. They’re relentlessly positive. Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time, and you’ll see that it’s just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies, and environmental disasters. It’s easy to think the world is headed downhill fast. And who knows? Maybe it is. But emotionally intelligent people don’t worry about that because they don’t get caught up in things they can’t control. They focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power—their attention and their effort. Numerous studies have shown that optimists are physically and psychologically healthier than pessimists. They also perform better at work. Remind yourself of this the next time a negative train of thought takes hold of you.
  2. They have a robust emotional vocabulary. All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur, which is problematic because unlabeled emotions often go misunderstood, which leads to irrational choices and counterproductive actions. People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable,” “frustrated,” “downtrodden,” or “anxious.” The more specific your word choice, the better insight you have into exactly how you are feeling, what caused it, and what you should do about it.
  3. They’re assertive. People with high EQs balance good manners, empathy, and kindness with the ability to assert themselves and establish boundaries. This tactful combination is ideal for handling conflict. When most people are crossed, they default to passive or aggressive behavior. Emotionally intelligent people remain balanced and assertive by steering themselves away from unfiltered emotional reactions. This enables them to neutralize difficult and toxic people without creating enemies.
  4. They’re curious about other people. It doesn’t matter if they’re introverted or extroverted, emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ. The more you care about other people and what they’re going through, the more curiosity you’re going to have about them.
  5. They forgive, but they don’t forget. Emotionally intelligent people live by the motto “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” They forgive in order to prevent a grudge, but they never forget. The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. Holding on to that stress can have devastating health consequences, and emotionally intelligent people know to avoid this at all costs. However, offering forgiveness doesn’t mean they’ll give a wrongdoer another chance. Emotionally intelligent people will not be bogged down by mistreatment from others, so they quickly let things go and are assertive in protecting themselves from future harm.
  6. They won’t let anyone limit their joy. When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they’ve done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or accomplishments take that away from them. While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within. Regardless of what people think of you at any particular moment, one thing is certain—you’re never as good or bad as they say you are.
  7. They make things fun. Emotionally intelligent people know exactly what makes them happy, and they constantly work to bring this happiness into everything they do. They turn monotonous work into games, go the extra mile to make people they care about happy, and take breaks to enjoy the things they love no matter how busy they are. They know that injecting this fun into their lives fights off stress and builds lasting resilience.
  8. They are difficult to offend. If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it’s difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.
  9. They squash negative self-talk. A big step in developing emotional intelligence involves stopping negative self-talk in its tracks. The more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. Most of our negative thoughts are just that—thoughts, not facts. You can stop the negative and pessimistic things your inner voice says by writing them down. Once you’ve taken a moment to slow down the negative momentum of your thoughts, you will be more rational and clear-headed in evaluating their veracity. You can bet that your statements aren’t true any time you use words such as “never,” “worst,” and “ever.” If your statements still look like facts once they’re on paper, take them to a friend and see if he or she agrees with you. Then the truth will surely come out.

Bringing It All Together

Unlike your IQ, your EQ is highly malleable. As you train your brain by repeatedly practicing new emotionally intelligent behaviors, your brain builds the pathways needed to make them into habits. Before long, you will begin responding to your surroundings with emotional intelligence without even having to think about it. And as your brain reinforces the use of new behaviors, the connections supporting old, destructive behaviors will die off.


article by Dr. Travis Bradberry

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